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"Mean" Words

"Calling somebody else fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling somebody else stupid doesn't make you any smarter. And ruining Regina George's life definitely didn't make me any happier. All you can do in life is try to solve the problem in front of you"- Cady Heron (Lindsay Lohan) Mean Girls


Everyone who knows me knows that I love Tina Fey (I dedicated a post to her on the week of her birthday). While sitting in class today, I remembered this line from Mean Girls, which she wrote and is in my opinion one of the greatest high school movies of all time (and I love high school movies). It's such a wise film, and I think this line sums it up. I wish I remembered it more often. Lately, I've not been very nice to the people I care about. That's always been a part of my problem. I've always been selfish and uppity and more often than not I forget to hold my tongue. I make fun of people constantly, and while I mean it to be lighthearted, it gets out of hand a lot of the time. 


I was recently put back in my place by someone close to me. I was reminded that when I'm under a lot of stress (like I am now) I stop being funny and start being cruel. I finally had the time last night to step back and face the monster I've become these last few weeks. What I have been forgetting lately is that making others feel worse isn't going to make my problems go away. I make my problems go away. I think that's something everyone forgets every once in a while, not just me, and most certainly not just high school students (while I do think it starts being a real problem when a person hits middle and high school age). Just like mean words aren't going to fix my problems, my epiphany may not change the whole world. However, I hope it changes someone's mind who's reading this. It's changing mine as I type it. 


So, I want to apologize for my actions first. If you are someone close to me, I'm sorry if I've hurt you with my words recently. If your are just a reader, I'm sorry if I've offended you with my posts recently. I am not going to take down anything I've said recently because I want them to be a lesson to myself and others. Finally, I want to remind you of something: family is there for you no matter what, but that doesn't mean you can't hurt them. Think about your words and their feelings a little more when you tease them or if you are angry or upset. Friends may not always be around. Keep that in mind. Don't go around trying to please them all the time, because that is probably just as bad. Do think about what you say to them. Once you drive them over the edge, it's really difficult to get that back. If you do have friends that have come back from that edge, remember to thank them. They are the best kind of people. The people around you who you don't know very well are still making an impression of you. Don't let a bad mood lead to cruel words and ruin what could have been a great friendship. And finally, if you can't say any nice words, just smile.


Good song=good mood:

Abby, Absolute Wannabe

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