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We've all got problems. We don't have good grades, our car broke down, we don't have enough friends on Facebook or Twitter or blog followers, we ate too much, we're starving, we don't know when our favorite TV show comes back on, we're missing a party or a big game for something really boring, our job sucks, etc. No matter how trivial these problems seem to other people (or your future self looking back on where you are now), they are tough and matter to us. They are real problems. That is, until something real happens. Something worthy of at least three episodes on a major TV show.

A lot of times when something like this happens, we are in shock, not even able to comprehend what has just happened. Then, we have to go through our day, scared and numb. But finally, you get that moment when you can calm down. That may mean you have to clean, make a mess, scream in a pillow, talk to yourself, pray, talk to your neighbor's cat, read, write, watch your favorite movie or TV show, listen to your favorite records, get a manicure, play video games or sports, take a toe-pruning bath, or any combination of these. Sometimes they make you feel better, but no matter what, they make you feel like you can feel better.  Sometimes just believing in something does that. Sometimes we're still just scared. We still just worry.

It's hard. Really hard. I'm a firm believer that you are never given problems that you cannot handle, no matter how impossible they seem in the moment. You just have to do different things to handle them. Sometimes you have to help other people handle theirs. No matter what, remember that you are not alone. Someone else has dealt with this and made it through.Maybe that's a friend or a stranger or even Rory Gilmore or someone else fictional. There's a light at the end of the tunnel. You CAN do it. And the people you're worried about can power through. You just being there is a huge help. You facing your own problems is a huge help. Just remember that good always comes out of bad. You just have to believe in something, even if it is just yourself. I hope you get through stronger and wiser and more confident in your beliefs and yourself.

I used to listen to this song a lot when it came out. Maybe it's a little stupid or cheesy, but I liked it. It used to help me a lot when I was in a tough part of my life. Breath (2 AM) by Anna Nalick
Now, for a happy song (at least to me). I've loved it for a really long time. Young Blood by The Naked and Famous

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